The Daily Courier helped us make a new friend

Jun. 11, 2014 @ 04:46 AM

I have thoroughly enjoyed the several months thus far that I have been blessed to be allowed to write for The Daily Courier.

One of the biggest blessings of the newspapers that I get to write for is the contact that results with people who have read the columns.

We receive emails and twitter messages from five different states from wonderful folks who read the weekly column in the 11 papers that carry them.

This past week, though, we received even better than that. I was in my office at the church about midday when my wife, who is also the church secretary, rang in over the intercom to tell me that I had a call on line one. I answered the phone, and on the other end was a dear old gentleman from Rutherfordton. He introduced himself, Mr. Queen, and told me that he had been reading my column each week, and wanted to call and speak to me personally.

He and his dear wife are in an assisted living facility. We spoke for a while, and toward the end of the conversation he extended an invitation for me to come visit him should I ever be up that way. 

The very next day my wife and I went to see them. When we walked in the room his face lit up with recognition. He knew me from my picture in the Courier. We spoke to them at length and found them to be perfectly delightful people. They both give testimony of having been saved in their early teens, and living their lives for the Lord. To hear them speak of heaven and all the people they are going to soon be meeting again, it is evident that they know beyond a shadow of a doubt that they are in fact going to that wonderful place.

We prayed with this dear couple, and left walking on clouds. Any day that you make a new friend is a good day, and any day that you make two new friends is a doubly good day, especially folks as nice as the Queens.

Proverbs 18:24 says “A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.”

One of the greatest joys in life is that of the friends that we make along the way. And I have found that the principle in this passage of Scripture is right: making friends is not normally an accidental thing, usually it happens quite intentionally. The easiest and quickest way to make friends is to be friendly. In fact, based on the usage of the word “must” in this verse, one could argue that there is no other way.

Many people go through life not experiencing the joys of friendship, but seemingly oblivious to why it is like that. Some years ago my wife and I went to visit a lady, and when we did we found her to be a terribly lonely and depressed individual. After letting her talk for a while I gave her some counsel in the form of some suggestions. I said, “when is the last time you picked up the phone and called someone just to tell them that you are thinking about them and wanted to encourage them?” She replied, “no one ever does that for me…”

I shook the cobwebs out of my disbelieving ears and tried again. “When is the last time you sent someone a note to tell them they were thinking about them and praying for them and wanted to drop them a note to let them know that you love them?” Again she replied, “no one ever sends me a note like that...”

I tried once more. “When is the last time you baked someone a cake and took it to them just to brighten their day?” I’m pretty sure you know by now what she said…

A person with such an inward focus cannot be helped, and will not likely ever have friends.

Don’t let that be you! A dear older gentleman took the initiative to make a phone call, he took the initiative to be friendly, and now he and I both have a new friend, each other. To that I say, “thank you Lord, and thank you Daily Courier.”


Dr. Bo Wagner is pastor of the Cornerstone Baptist Church of Mooresboro, a widely traveled evangelist, and the author of several books. His books are available at Dr. Wagner can be contacted by email at